Listings

Welcome to the ButchFemme Listings.

We know there are now a fair number of LGBT directories out there – we are listing sites here that are SPECIFICALLY B/F aimed, owned or relevant.  We may list other stuff here and there too.

Listings are by category and more or less alphabetical.  (We’ll add categories as needed.) Scroll to the bottom for listings in languages other than English (as they are submitted or we find them we will gladly list them).

OK, so, we have got a few posted – send us your listings to add!  Ready?

Here goes:

Advocacy & Activism

http://butchfemmesociety.freeservers.com/ – New York City’s oldest and largest butch/femme social and support group. BFS is committed to providing social education, emotional support, and entertainment to the much ignored butch/femme community. Since 1989, we’ve strived for fair representation of every ethnicity, all age groups, and all social and occupational backgrounds. BFS has a strict non-exclusionary policy and is open to all lesbians and TG/TS who support the beautiful butch/femme dynamic.

http://jeannecordova.com/ – this is the website of the amazing Jeanne Cordova, activist, author, editor of the renowned “Lesbian Tide” being a few of the many hats she has worn.

http://www.thelesbianmafia.com/home/ – Lesbian Mafia News – fabulous ranting by a real lezbo (Ok, some of you might find it a stretch that we list this one under Advocacy & Activism, but. . .)

Art

http://www.felicenewman.com/artist/ – Author and Sex Educator Felice Newman’s Art

http://sdholman.com/galleries/butch-not-like-the-other-girls-2/ – Butch: Not Like Other Girls – fabulous photography project by SD Holman

http://www.mtffilmfunding.org/ – funding for LGBT films!

http://www.qwocmap.org/Queer Women of Color Media Arts  Projects – film festivals and more

http://butchfemmephotoproject.com/ – Home page for photographer Wendi Kali’s book: The Butch/Femme Photo Project

 

Articles, Blogs & Forums

http://aboyandherdog.com – A Boy And Her Dog – This is a fun blog from a Butch/Transgender viewpoint.  The author describes it: “I write a personal blog about being on the butch/transgender border. I write about my dog Gracie, my partner Donna, my childhood, and various and sundry things of interest to butches. I’ve recently written on butch misogyny and on plaid flannel shirts.”  By the way, we think its of interest to Femmes and others too!

http://afemmeinnyc.wordpress.com/ – A Femme in NYC – great writing!  (and we particularly like her post “The Allure of Mature Butches”!

http://www.autostraddle.com/tag/butchfemme/ – Autostraddle Butch Femme artcles

http://www.autostraddle.com/six-ways-that-1950s-butches-and-femmes-fucked-with-society-were-badass-140167/ – Article, Six Ways

http://www.butch-femme.net/index.htm – Serving the needs of Butches, Femmes, Stonebutches, TG Individuals, TransMen and FtMs on the World Wide Web and in personal contact since 1996

http://www.butch-femme.com/content.php – the favorite website is BACK with lots of new features!  Check them out!!

http://www.butchsightings.com/ – Candid photos and commentary by a Femme who appreciates Butches

http://www.glbtq.com/social-sciences/butch_femme_ssh.html – Butch Femme on An Encyclopedia of GLBTQ Culture

http://jeannecordova.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=89:butches-lies-and-feminism&catid=37:articles-and-excerpts – Activist Jeanne Cordova – this is one of our favorite blog posts on the fate of butch femme during the era of militant lesbian feminism, among other things.

 http://butchontap.com/Butch On Tap is another of our faves – “Butch” writes with humor, humility (the good kind), a good dose of butch rage and butch sweetness (shhhhh. .  don’t tell her we said that), and most importantly HUMOR – she helps us laugh at our selves and love each other more.

http://www.cardcarryinglesbian.com/tag/butchfemme-dynamicCard Carrying Lesbian blog discusses the butch femme dynamic

http://www.butchfemmeplanet.com/ – this forum is open to pretty much any kind of discussion you could dream up.  They get stars just for their name. . .

http://fuckyeahbutchfemme.tumblr.com/ – A visual celebration of self identified butch femme folx

http://mybutchkingdom.wordpress.com/ – one butch’s thoughts every few days. . .

http://thebutchlife.wordpress.com/about/ – The Butch Life – life in South Africa as a Butch

http://www.victoria-oldham.co.uk – The Musings of a Lesbian Writer [listing submitted by blogger Victoria Oldham]

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=butch%2Ffemme – Some Interesting Definitions

http://mainelybutch.wordpress.com/category/things-butch-femme/ – Mainely Butch’s ramblings on the B/F lifestyle

Bars, Clubs, Dancing

http://theoxwood.wix.com/theox – The Oxwood Inn – Not strictly B/F, but the BF Social Club of LA holds dance class series here on Thursday nights.  The oldest Lesbian owned bar in L.A. County  Welcome to the Ox! We are the last Lesbian bar in the San Fernando Valley. We have a night for everybody in our LBGT family. Please come by and enjoy yourself and meet old and new friends. We have a pool table, 2 dart machines, free parking in the back, friendly bartenders and great drink prices. Don’t miss out on our Happy Hour!

 

Beauty & Grooming
http://www.mizchris.com/?page_id=71 – OK, we aren’t sure what category this one belongs in, but the byline for MIZ.CHRIS is “A Femme’s Guide to Just About Everything”.  Now that’s something we should all be reading, doncha think?

http://www.butchbasix.com/ Butch shopping! Everything from bags and pet accessories to swimwear and our favorite link: Alternity  

Books & Magazines

Epochalips Lesbian magazine: info@epochalips.com

http://www.ivanecoyote.com/ – website of author and spoken word artist Ivan E Coyote. We can’t recommend Ivan enough.  (See Theater listing  below for Ivan on Youtube.)

http://www.arsenalpulp.com/bookinfo.php?index=338 – Persistence All Ways Butch and Femme, Edited by Ivan E. Coyote and Zena Sharman

http://www.amazon.com/The-Persistent-Desire-Femme-Butch-Reader/dp/1555831907 – The Persistent Desire, A Femme Butch Reader, Joan Nestle, editor

http://www.amazon.com/When-Were-Outlaws-Jeanne-Cordova/dp/1935226517 – When We Were outlaws, Jeanne Cordova

 

Camping

http://www.cedarscampground.com/history – Cedars – North Americas longest running gay campground (OK, its not strictly B/F, but how many gay campgrounds do we know?  We felt it deserved a listing.)

 

Clothing

http://whatisbutch.com/ – In their words “Our mission is to spotlight those who are systematically overlooked by society at large. The What is Butch? Movement is focused on educating , liberating and redirecting misconceptions about this marginalized, yet vibrant community. Each fashion show we produce highlights these remarkable individuals by utilizing the universally understood language, fashion.”

http://www.sharpesuiting.com/ – Sharpe Suites: The Sharpe focus is on constructing custom suits that fit your specific style and body type, however you identify. We are inspired by social context and undefined by gender binaries. Classic, cutting-edge and unafraid.

http://www.thuycustomclothier.com/ – fine men’s clothing for women.

http://www.butchbasix.com/ – Everything from dog bow ties to mini tool kits, butch bags and more, including our favorite page: Alternity – clothing and other useful items for masculine-of-center pregnancy and parenthood!

http://butchbaby.co/ – what it sounds like.

 

Coming Out

 http://www.meetup.com/lillies/Lillies is a support group for women coming out late in life.  A really kind, generous and fun group.  Located in Pasadena, CA

http://www.lavendervisions.com/ – The site of Joanne Fleisher, LCSW
Author of the book “Living Two Lives”  support for married women who love women.

 

Dating Sites

http://butchfemmematchmaker.com/ – We have never used this site, but let us know if you have and we will post a comment.

 

Exercise & Health

http://www.constanceclare.com/ Alexander technique with Constance Clare-Newman. Constance Clare-Newman teaches the Alexander Technique in Palm Springs, CA., and in Provincetown, MA and travels for workshops. Constance also specializes in work with Dressage Riders (see cross reference under. Constance is also co-teacher of HOT, DEEP & CONNECTED. Workshops, coaching and sex education for lesbians, bisexual & queer women, along with her wife, Felice Newman (see cross-listing under Sex & Sensuality!)

People do not decide their futures; they decide their habits and their habits decide their futures.

— F. M. Alexander

http://www.theperfectsidekick.com/#! – first and only queer gym in existence! Located in Oakland, CA and planning on opening two new locations – VOTE!!

 

Festivals, Conferences & Gatherings

http://www.butchvoices.com/about/ – Butch Voices Conference 2013 – Oakland CA

http://www.michfest.com/ –  the inimitable Michigan Women’s Music Festival – ok, not specifically B/F, but way too cool not to include.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_LGBT_eventsWikipedia’s extensive list of Pride festivals and events around the globe. (Again, not specifically B/F, but we had to include this listing!)

 

Hiking & Outdoors

 http://www.meetup.com/BFSCLA/The Butch Femme Meetup group in Los Angeles doesn’t ONLY to a lot of hiking, but their full moon hikes in Griffith Park overlooking Hollywood, CA are a ton of fun.

Holidays

http://globalwords.co.uk/?page_id=178.  Annual Women’s Writer Retreat, Malaga, Spain  [listing submitted by blogger Victoria Oldham – check for her site under Blogs] Victoria says: The retreat is for anyone who writes–whether they’re working on a novel or just want to learn elements of craft, or even if they just want to be around other writers. Author and publisher Radclyffe will also be teaching workshops there throughout the week (and damn, does she write some amazing butch-femme characters!)

 

Hotels, Motels, B&B’s

http://www.bambu-resort.com/ – Bambu Lesbian Resort in Spain
[listing submitted by blogger Victoria Oldham – check for her site under Blogs]

The Ashland Hostel – OK, its not specifically Butch-Femme deal, but its owned by two wonderful Womyn and we love it!  Check them out: The Ashland Hostel

Marriage & Commitment

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8LZ9lJ04ESUA Beautiful Lesbian Wedding Proposal

 

Music

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KPkpjhl7Vro – A Butch song, by the chorus called: Big Butch Women

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q1izyPUuR7o – Femme Song – Only Straight Girls Wear Dresses

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bu3nYLdbQfI – Adorable B/F couple dances

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skRxWu-s45w&feature=youtube_gdata_player – A Butch Anthem

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OMg5EuT3WuQ – Classic Chris Williamson

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dge7f1Ne4Ng – Classic Holly Near

http://www.god-desandshe.com/   God Des and She (of the infamous “Lick It” featured on The L Word):http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KKNz0QWEozs

http://mouthsofbabesmusic.com/home – Mouths Of Babes: Mouths of Babes is Ty Greenstein (Girlyman) and Ingrid Elizabeth (Coyote Grace).
This tender tomboy and rough-and-tumble lady come together to melt hearts and shake souls with undeniable chemistry and a truly unexpected heralding of wisdom. Mouths of Babes’ sound is equal parts celebration and blues, folk and soul, salve and anthem—an invitation to love this life, to sing your sob story and end it with a smile. Check them out!!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JfQ_ptzFv7M – Team Gina Butch Femme video

News

http://paper.li/afemmeinnyc/butchfemme – News – The Daily Butch Femmer – articles, blogs, photos, videos (also see listing for afemmeinnyc under ‘blogs’)

Parenting

http://butchbaby.co/ – what it sounds like.

http://www.butchbasix.com/ – Everything from dog bow ties to mini tool kits, butch bags and more, including our favorite page: Alternity – clothing and other useful items for masculine-of-center pregnancy and parenthood!

Pets & Animals

http://www.betterdressageseat.com/workshops/ – Well Carried Workshops – Alexander technique for Dressage Riders – Constance Clare-Newman. Constance is also co-teacher of HOT, DEEP & CONNECTED; Workshops, coaching and sex education for lesbians, bisexual & queer women, along with her wife, Felice Newman (see cross-listing under Sex & Sensuality!)

Photos

http://astrangerinthisplace.blogspot.com/p/butchfemme-photo-project.htmlPhotos of Butch and Femme identified folk

 Politics

http://kaplanforoakland.org/  –  website of Rebecca Kaplan – Oakland City Councilmember At-Large.  Hooray for openly Lesbian (Butch) political leaders!

Quizzes

http://quizfarm.com/quizzes/bisexual/normizout/femme-butch-not-sure/  – Fun Femme Butch quiz – what are you?

http://members.tripod.com/womens_voices/BF100/BF100.html – The Butch Femme Test . . . need to procrastinate?  Take the test.

 

 

Restaurants & Food

Sex & Sensuality

http://www.felicenewman.com/index.php – Felice Newman – HOT, DEEP & CONNECTED. Workshops, coaching and sex education for lesbians, bisexual & queer women.  Felice Newman is the author of The Whole Lesbian Sex Book. She teaches workshops with her wife, Constance Clare-Newman, an Alexander Technique teacher. (See Constance’s listing under Exercise & Health!) Palm Springs, Provincetown, MA, and Skype.

http://lesbianlife.about.com/od/lesbiansex/f/ButchLover.htm – Hmmm. . . well, check this out, dear ones, and let us know what you think!

https://www.butchfemmekink.com/join – Butch Femme Kink is like a big virtual munch where queer, trans*, genderqueer, genderfluid and other expressions of butch and femme can build community together in a supportive social network environment.

http://butchramblings.com/tag/butch-femme-sex/ – Butch Ramblings Erotica Blog

http://www.mrsexsmith.com/ – Official website of Sinclair Sexsmith. Sinclair Sexsmith is an educator, coach, and writer specializing in sexualities, genders, and relationships.

http://www.sugarbutch.net/about/ –  Sincalir Sexsmith’s award-winning personal online project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Sex, Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top

Spirituality

http://www.gaychurch.org/ – Website for the Gay affirming Churches

Theater (Live, Film, TV)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pN-py8zojfk – If you have not heard Ivan E Coyote read her “Butch Roadmap”, do yourself a delight and check it out.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L3-ChHZvr9Q – the fabulous “Femme Piece” that accompanies “A Butch Road Map”

 

Vehicles (any number of wheels)

Videos (other than music)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kcAFb5Jytw0  – Adorable B/F couple

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8LZ9lJ04ESU  – A most uplifting wedding proposal!

Womyn of Color

http://www.qwocmap.org/ Queer Women of Color Media Arts  Projects – film festivals and more

http://www.qwocboston.org/ – queer Women of Color Boston

http://brownboiproject.org/ – Core Values – Brownboi works for Gender Justice by re-envisioning the power imbalance between traditional notions of masculinity and femininity. We hold institutional systems, other masculine people, and ourselves accountable for its accompanying privileges. We draw on a gender inclusive framework that shapes non-oppressive masculinity rooted in honor, community, and empowerment of feminine identified people, especially women and girls.

Sites in Languages other than English

 


 

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